看到朋友轉寄來的文章，我內心可說是五味雜陳，基本上文章道出了多數不婚女性的心聲及價值觀，身為被台灣女性所唾棄的台灣男性之一，理查不知道該苦笑呢？還是該嗤之以鼻？

在此我用英文試著陳述一些想法，看不看得懂其實無所謂，我只提出問題，並不是想提供答案，究竟真正的答案是什麼，老實說我真的不知道，如果有人知道答案的；或想要分享自己成功的經驗，歡迎留言。
以下是朋友轉寄來的文章：

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標題：「台灣女人自願從婚姻人肉市場中除役」的現象思考

與其說「台灣女人不敵外籍新娘」，倒不如說「台灣女人自願從婚姻人肉市場中除役」。 經常大嘆「好男人都死到哪裡去了？」的女人，看到以下這個最新統計結果，恐怕要喊得更大聲了。

根據內政部資料顯示，民國九十二年一整年結婚的十七萬三千多對新人當中， 竟有超過四分之一的外籍新娘！ 更令女人吐血的是，愈來愈多的案例顯示， 選擇外籍新娘當牽手的台灣男人， 已從多半是從事勞力工作的「中低收入」男人，擴散到醫師、大學教授、竹科工程師等「高學歷、高收入、高社經地位」的男人了。外籍紅粉兵團正施展著花拳繡腿攻佔台灣的婚姻市場，台灣女人被打得節節敗退、潰不成軍！

到底，外籍新娘好在哪裡？聽聽樂在其中的男人怎麼說吧。 振國是某私立技術學院講師，身為家中獨子、年逾四十、頭上已經童山濯濯、依舊與父母同住的他，一年前赴越南相親，半個月後娶回年紀少他一半的美嬌娘。

現在，他一手抱著剛出生的胖兒子，一手摟著年輕貌美的老婆，滔滔不絕地宣揚外籍新娘的好處︰

「越南女人勤快、乖巧，我媽說東她不會往西，不會頂嘴，不會有頭痛的婆媳問題。平日家事一手包辦，泡好茶會必恭必敬端到你面前，哪像許多台灣女人，不愛生小孩，交往時抱怨你不夠溫柔浪漫、不懂她的心，聽到婚後得跟公婆住就吵鬧不休。」

振國對現在的生活讚不絕口，他說︰「每天下班後有熱騰騰的飯菜吃，家中老小有人照顧，晚上有人暖被，一家人和樂融融！」

看著振國說得一臉眉飛色舞，我也看清了一個事實——不論社會風氣如何進步，許多台灣男人對婚姻的期待與需求，和半世紀前比較起來，相去不遠，滿足「性」與「傳宗接代」兩項主要功能即可。

對許多期盼高品質生活的女人來說，淪為「傭人」和「生產機器」的婚姻，哪有什麼好稀罕的！ 朋友莉娜前些日子回南部老家省親，被家中的那堆女性長輩嘲笑︰ 「人家隔壁阿忠娶回來的大陸妹，長得沒妳好看、大字不識幾個、也不會賺錢，可是人家有家庭有老公有小孩，妳沒有。」長輩們還喟嘆︰「現在年輕女人，競爭不過外籍新娘！」

莉娜說︰「一點也不羨慕外籍新娘，因為娶外籍新娘的男人所能提供的婚姻，我一點也沒興趣。」於是，我有愈來愈多女性朋友選擇看淡婚姻，把全副心力加碼在自己身上，心無旁鶩地馳騁職場，花在讀書進修與抗老美容上頭的錢絕不手軟。她們成為高學歷、高職等、高收入的「三高」女人，下廚純粹是為了取悅自己，談戀愛只當是一場經歷。

與其說「台灣女人不敵外籍新娘」，倒不如說「台灣女人自願從婚姻人肉市場中除役」。
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以下是我的陳述：
After I read this article, the image of Taiwanese modern female jump into my brain. I don’t mean they keep the standard of your marriage on soul mate is a wrong thing. I just wonder what happened the Taiwanese male and female.

I have admitted Taiwanese male take female’s role as a procreation machine or housemaid is not a right way to treat the lovely female. However, this is a part of reality in human society. If Taiwanese female choose to ignore the truth, the sigh of ”where the perfect man is” of ”where my soul mate is” will always happen.

I can realise what requests of Taiwanese female are; however, it is impossible to live with romance but without physical problem in reality. If female is only willing to take the beautiful part of marriage and disband the ugly part, to get a marriage life is difficult thing to Taiwanese female.

Ok, maybe the most of Taiwanese female will say ”I don’t care I will be single till aged without any closer relationship, rather than get marriage with those pains”, just as the title of this article. However, I have to ask, ”Is this the perfect result for Taiwanese female and male?” Taiwanese male maybe need to learn how to act a good soul mate for female, but how to deal with the other practical parts, such as household duties or the relationship of mother-in-law? All problems are the duties of Taiwanese male? The entire thing that Taiwanese female just need to do is choosing or get a rid of marriage?

To marry with foreign brides is not a responsible way in solving the problem of marriage for Taiwanese male. However, It should have a way to change the situation which both Taiwanese male and female need to do together. I don’t exactly know what it is. I guess somebody maybe know the answer.

I just stated what I think of, not thing special. Taiwanese female! Don’t take hostility to me. I am still trying to be a good guy in front of you. :-)