A love relationship is like sand
you hold in your hand

if you hold the sand loosely
it will stay in your hand

but if you close your hand and squeeze it tightly to hold on to it

the sand will slowly escape

you might keep some of it

but most of it will spill away

in love

if you hold him loosely out of respect and freedom

he should remain with you

but if you hold him too tightly and possessively

your relationship will lessen until it is lost