2002-03-10 09:04:21Bombshell
facing an ambivalence!!!
Again i was sought to give advices, from my experienced past affairs, you can say that.
Her schedule was barely made for two persons on one day, it was almost a close to catch up the next date.
In the morning, they were supposed to go camping but called quit due to the fickle weather. So they decided to do dinner at a fabulous restaurant. Soon as they made such an arrangement over her home phone, her cell phone buzzed, it was her bf #2. He asked her if she wasn't doing anything special tonite, maybe they could hang out and watch a movie.
Now she's facing a choice. But she quickly responded. She suggested her bf#2 pay a short visit to her before sun goes off, becuz she has to catch up a dinner with her gals.
Now her bf#1 wondered, she doesn't seem to be paranoid anymore, she doesn't constantly call him and question where he's been, she doesn't get pissed if he all of a sudden cancelled a dinner date. She doesn't need a ride to get over his place, rather, she likes to drive. She now seems more considerate and less annoying. He's now in a deeply screening mode, "Maybe recently I've been too insensible to her and taken her for granted, mmm, i need to do something to improve."
Then she received a surprise from bf#1, flowers plus dinner at decent restaurant, which she used to dream about, now she rcvd it for granted.
It's life!!!
How to keep a relationship enlightened rather than dull? Seeking a balance.
When you see each other everyday, you get bored and tired. You run out of stimulation and motivation to cheer her up or to surprise her, because you know she's always there, constantly checking on you, and you become claustrophobic.
All of a sudden she seems so distant, that makes you wonder, what happened? ain't I nice enough to her? is she going to leave me? mmm, i've got to do something to win her back.
Then this thing goes on over and over again, and the relationship never gets bored. So i strongly encourage a double date. It works, it's like panacea for hopeless relationship.
Her schedule was barely made for two persons on one day, it was almost a close to catch up the next date.
In the morning, they were supposed to go camping but called quit due to the fickle weather. So they decided to do dinner at a fabulous restaurant. Soon as they made such an arrangement over her home phone, her cell phone buzzed, it was her bf #2. He asked her if she wasn't doing anything special tonite, maybe they could hang out and watch a movie.
Now she's facing a choice. But she quickly responded. She suggested her bf#2 pay a short visit to her before sun goes off, becuz she has to catch up a dinner with her gals.
Now her bf#1 wondered, she doesn't seem to be paranoid anymore, she doesn't constantly call him and question where he's been, she doesn't get pissed if he all of a sudden cancelled a dinner date. She doesn't need a ride to get over his place, rather, she likes to drive. She now seems more considerate and less annoying. He's now in a deeply screening mode, "Maybe recently I've been too insensible to her and taken her for granted, mmm, i need to do something to improve."
Then she received a surprise from bf#1, flowers plus dinner at decent restaurant, which she used to dream about, now she rcvd it for granted.
It's life!!!
How to keep a relationship enlightened rather than dull? Seeking a balance.
When you see each other everyday, you get bored and tired. You run out of stimulation and motivation to cheer her up or to surprise her, because you know she's always there, constantly checking on you, and you become claustrophobic.
All of a sudden she seems so distant, that makes you wonder, what happened? ain't I nice enough to her? is she going to leave me? mmm, i've got to do something to win her back.
Then this thing goes on over and over again, and the relationship never gets bored. So i strongly encourage a double date. It works, it's like panacea for hopeless relationship.