2005-09-30 10:12:50In Sweet November
Is that really obvious?
Today all three out of town sales directors came to New York office for a meeting tomorrow, and we went out together for the dinner with our boss. There I was again - the only quite Asian lady (because not good at expressing herself in English) with three seasoned, experienced sales guys and my boss who happens to be good at talking & speech.
I prayed before I went. Thank God the dinner was not as bad as I was worried. I finally enjoyed being with them a little bit, although I still cannot participate in their conversations too much. I found out that I actually like being around with sales people, I mean, the good ones. They’re actually smart and quick (always calculating I will think), humorous so that I don’t need to worry what to say, just to do my part - laughing at their jokes. I feel secured and fun if I can just pitch at the right moment, being part of the conversation. Jokes and business were passing around the table in a relaxing way which I was not familiar with. I found more respects I have for my boss and those sales directors tonight. My previous judgment about my boss could be too biased, and narrowed. I need to be more humble. I might be good at analysis supporting them, but they’re the ones truly making business happen, and they have a lot more I don’t know about and the attributes that I don’t have (good ones, again).
The conversation topics went to wedding in the middle of the dinner after I asked about the average costs for a wedding at US. They all talked about how their weddings were like 10 years or so ago. It was interesting how things are universal across the cultures. Then I asked the question - do people marry early here in the US? Is that an obvious question revealing that I want to get married? They answered me, and asked my age, then told me not to worry. I have plenty of time still.... Two people!! Feeling somehow embarrassed :( They asked me if I would like a big wedding. Sure. I would love to if I even have someone to discuss with. Uuuu...
Lord give me the wisdom to distinguish the things that I can control from the ones that I cannot control, and give me the strength to let go what I cannot control. Please take away my worries and pressures from the "30"....
I prayed before I went. Thank God the dinner was not as bad as I was worried. I finally enjoyed being with them a little bit, although I still cannot participate in their conversations too much. I found out that I actually like being around with sales people, I mean, the good ones. They’re actually smart and quick (always calculating I will think), humorous so that I don’t need to worry what to say, just to do my part - laughing at their jokes. I feel secured and fun if I can just pitch at the right moment, being part of the conversation. Jokes and business were passing around the table in a relaxing way which I was not familiar with. I found more respects I have for my boss and those sales directors tonight. My previous judgment about my boss could be too biased, and narrowed. I need to be more humble. I might be good at analysis supporting them, but they’re the ones truly making business happen, and they have a lot more I don’t know about and the attributes that I don’t have (good ones, again).
The conversation topics went to wedding in the middle of the dinner after I asked about the average costs for a wedding at US. They all talked about how their weddings were like 10 years or so ago. It was interesting how things are universal across the cultures. Then I asked the question - do people marry early here in the US? Is that an obvious question revealing that I want to get married? They answered me, and asked my age, then told me not to worry. I have plenty of time still.... Two people!! Feeling somehow embarrassed :( They asked me if I would like a big wedding. Sure. I would love to if I even have someone to discuss with. Uuuu...
Lord give me the wisdom to distinguish the things that I can control from the ones that I cannot control, and give me the strength to let go what I cannot control. Please take away my worries and pressures from the "30"....