2013-04-14 20:34:13Viviandoll
Love inward or outward?
Just went to see Danny Boyle's Trance (2013) last night, as my first excursion in these few ill weeks. The plot is nearly predictable yet the British style and good directing elevate the greatness of Trance from the rest of Hollywood commercial pictures. Well done, Boyle, once again, you blew our mind :)
What intrigued me to initiate this diary entry is the love obsession in the Trance story. The main heroin had sexual relationship with the woman, and as this obsession grew further his jealousy over any potential love rival and the tremendous fear of imagining losing his woman one day.
This attachment is definitely an obsession, causing you to abandon your own will if one day that person is not here. However, is it love? I have been thinking for years, occasionally, that does the grudge and being unable to let go and to move on mean you love yourself more than you love that person? Of course, the teary experience and heartache over a breakup are natural, but maybe they represent the love itself than holding grudge or refusal to let to?
Love inward or outward?
One thing I realise lately is that once the control and watchdog is unseasible for me, the easiness in the relationship surfaces; the anxiety and obsession attention are relaxed; the nature of love becomes empurified expoliating from the central of your core. And that is a simple love for the person of interest.
However, the less intensity of bloody love is also undeniably accompanying as soon as all obsession is gone.
Then, we know obsessive love may dangerously replace the true feeling of love, but the loving relationship without prospective expectation nor up-hope seems more detached.
Maybe there is no best way to love a person or to be loved, only you know yourself, and you learn about that person, and there will be cultivating hatching time to know what's best for you two.
Would it work if one is obsessive in love down there in the heart, and blanketing over with all the calmness and sophisticated serene? The ocean does, why can't we?