2008-05-06 12:41:21深藍
女人與手術檯
生了兩個小孩,最近把輸卵管紮起來,不想再生了
而這次是為了徹底避孕...
希望這是最後一次面對手術檯!
手術之前和注射IV的護士聊了一下
她說,「從沒能夠說服我的男人去做結紮」
「男人結紮的過程比女人痛苦」…真的嗎?才不會呢!
和女人比起來,男人結紮的痛,是小巫見大巫!
10個男人有9個大概不願結紮--這是我們共同的結論
『性』這件事情上,女人被賦予『被播種』的角色
基於此種先天上的弱勢,女人必須自保
不然,不管妳是在不小心、或者不願意的情況之下懷孕
一旦坐上手術檯把小孩拿掉
辛苦了身體不用說、心裡痛苦的,可都是自己!
多諷刺啊!
以前為了懷孕,坐手術檯,做輸卵管的腹腔鏡手術,期待精卵能自然結合
5次人工授精,從沒能如願
試管生了一個小孩之後,輸卵管發揮功能,第二個小孩自然來臨
如今認真考慮避孕,再度坐上手術檯
仍是腹腔鏡手術,但卻做剛好相反的事
不孕、懷孕、避孕
儘管目的不同
坐上手術檯的,都是女人!
感觸很深…
期待下輩子成為男人,不用再承受心理的負擔與身體的痛苦!
而這次是為了徹底避孕...
希望這是最後一次面對手術檯!
手術之前和注射IV的護士聊了一下
她說,「從沒能夠說服我的男人去做結紮」
「男人結紮的過程比女人痛苦」…真的嗎?才不會呢!
和女人比起來,男人結紮的痛,是小巫見大巫!
10個男人有9個大概不願結紮--這是我們共同的結論
『性』這件事情上,女人被賦予『被播種』的角色
基於此種先天上的弱勢,女人必須自保
不然,不管妳是在不小心、或者不願意的情況之下懷孕
一旦坐上手術檯把小孩拿掉
辛苦了身體不用說、心裡痛苦的,可都是自己!
多諷刺啊!
以前為了懷孕,坐手術檯,做輸卵管的腹腔鏡手術,期待精卵能自然結合
5次人工授精,從沒能如願
試管生了一個小孩之後,輸卵管發揮功能,第二個小孩自然來臨
如今認真考慮避孕,再度坐上手術檯
仍是腹腔鏡手術,但卻做剛好相反的事
不孕、懷孕、避孕
儘管目的不同
坐上手術檯的,都是女人!
感觸很深…
期待下輩子成為男人,不用再承受心理的負擔與身體的痛苦!
I actually thought about getting my tubes tided. I don`t want to have any more kids. But, my husband wants a second one. We will have to talk about it. Glad you shared your experience here. I think women do a lot more and suffer a lot more than men. That`s why I say to myself I wish I were a man and would have less things to worry about sometimes.
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Why don`t you explore the first one, then assess or decide later?I also think one is good enough for us, especially when we have to go through IVF, we are just grateful that the 2nd one is natural and both can keep each other`s company!
My neighbor doesn`t want to have 2nd child since her first one, a boy, whom she considers a `difficult` case, so even her hubby begs her to have another one in front of us, she still refuses and I don`t blame her, because I know women as the mother, usually have to take care kids more than men. She`s a career woman and handles her work pretty well. If I were her, I would make the same decision! 2008-05-13 11:01:38
我的工作就是掛在網路上,只要在run程式,我就會到網路上到處逛逛,有時看看新聞台,有時看看拍賣,沒有時間去逛街,就逛網路商店買童裝&玩具,很方便!!
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Good for you...一邊工作又可以辦好多事...當媽的都是這樣,要一心多用咧!^-^
2008-05-13 10:53:32
真是辛苦深藍了!
我很幸運,我先生也是那個1/10的,他還主動說不要老婆做手術...
女人真的很辛苦,妳是聰明的女人,這樣將來至少不用再擔心懷孕的事囉~~^^
我想對於懷孕的功課已經修得差不多了... 2008-05-19 10:23:52