（pic: 陳柏霖。過動兒的照片很難拍，找不到好看的！）


最近有淘氣男在追妳嗎？
如果有的話，請讀完下面這篇文章，再出門約會吧！


【Men Only Want to Date Forever】

When chatting（談論） about women whom men are dating, people often get comments（回應） such as, “yeah, we had great time together, but I am not ready for a relationship（感情） yet.”

To most men, having lots of dates is more interesting than being committed to just one girl（和一個女孩定下來）, and I know exactly the reason why.

The first reason for men to prefer dating to ‘being committed to someone’ is because they stereotype ‘girlfriends’ as dependent（依賴的） women who deprive them of freedom（剝奪他們的自由）. If they have to spend a lot of time with their girlfriends, their life will become predictable and unexciting（了無生趣）. With thoughts like these, many men opt ‘dating forever’ over ‘being committed to someone’.

The second reason why men want to date forever is because they enjoy going out with different types of women. Gorgeous men have the most fun（帥哥無往不利）. When gorgeous men realize how many women want to date them, their perception（認知） about dating is widened（拓寬）; they change dates constantly（常常地） because it never occurs to（料想到） them that, one day, they may run out of dates（找不到約會對象）. Other not-so-gorgeous men who love to date train themselves to become good conversationalists（勤練哈拉技巧） and groom themselves well（打扮有型）; therefore, they still get plenty of dates. No matter if the date went well or badly, after the date, these men don’t recollect（回味）, they move on（繼續下一攤）! All men share the secret desire of dating various women because we value（重視） physical attraction（肉體的吸引力） more than emotional bonds（情感的羈絆）. Plus, most men have the confidence that when under the right circumstances（狀況對了）, we can date whomever we want.（言下之意，連林志玲都約得到！）

Nevertheless, except regular（正常的） guys, there are two groups of men who may date too much. The first group is the ‘revenge type’（復仇型）. These men suffer from rejections（受盡求歡被拒之苦） in the early stage of their life; and later, as a result, when they become rich and powerful, they date as many women as they can to ‘get even’ with them. The second group is ‘romantic lovers’. These men seek approval（認同） from women continually. In addition, they indulge in sex（嗜性成癮）. When they lack women’s attention, they feel empty.

We men benefit（得利） from dating non-stop; for example, most people don’t really know what qualities they are looking for from their future partners unless they date a lot. Personally, I think men know more about what kind of girlfriends they want in comparison to（比較起來） women who are looking for boyfriends. Moreover, since we have encountered（邂逅） countless（無數的） women, we develop a unique skill to distinguish（分辨） eligible partners（合適的伴侶） efficiently（有效率地）.

My advice（忠告） for women is to date more. Don’t think about being committed when you just start dating someone, or at least know your date is not thinking about it!（不要剛開始約會，就急著和對方定下來，或至少要有「對方並不想定下來」的心理準備！）


前陣子，脾氣火爆的台長四處溜答的時候
在友台【克萊兒電視台】看到一篇標題為〈為什麼男人老愛釣妹妹〉的文章
（http://mypaper.pchome.com.tw/news/shininglin/3/1271397109/20060711191204/）
點進去後，發現內容是某個小男生的英文作文
我一開始讀，一股「拿出紅筆起來改正他文法錯誤」的衝動蓄勢待發！（當老師的職業病）
看完後，又覺得非常生氣！
（朋友問過我：「哪來那麼多氣好生？」）
我相信大部分女生看完我改寫的文章，應該不致於有太強烈的情緒反彈
畢竟我很用心地軟化了他說話的口氣
他在原文裡，不斷強調「不論約會的對象多麼漂亮、約會進行多麼順利，或兩人之間多麼有默契，
他都不會想和對方定下來！！！」
女生真可憐，在約過會、淘氣男莫名消失後，還不停地責問自己，到底哪裡做錯了？

他還說，「他不曾碰過很 enjoy 約會過程的女生。」
那是當然的啦！
男生策劃的約會不就是「叫披薩」、「看下載來的電影」和「上床」三部曲而己嗎？
誰會滿足於這樣的「約會」？
而且這個笨傢伙還以為，沒有女人是男伴換個不停的！
哈哈哈
那又何必發明 slut（浪女）這個字呢？
這個幸運的傢伙顯然還不識被劈腿的愁苦滋味
祝他早日邁向「成熟的人生」囉！


還有，原文是沒有結論的
那個「還算言之有理」的結論是我寫的。


其實這篇「警世文」立意良善
主旨是正確的，只是作者說話口氣太放肆，讓奉行大女人主義的我看了礙眼而已，
不論如何，對正漫步感情路上的女孩們還是有警惕作用，
起碼下次約完會，淘氣男突然人間蒸發的時候，女孩兒們不需要自責！