2012-06-25 12:23:05Guruji
你無法使任何人快樂（二）
試試看這個：在家裡，你可能聽到岳母抱怨、先生抱怨、任何人都有可能抱怨，但是讓這個世界亂七八糟去，我一定要堅守這個想法：無論如何我都要保持高昂的生命能量。你就只要採取這個步驟，然後等著。當問題和挑戰來的時候，你就可以將心智轉往內在。當問題出現時，我們怎麼做？我們不是向內省察，我們反而追著問題跑，完全地被往那個方向吸引，然後我們的生命能量下降，接著就崩潰。
很多時候，你被淹沒在以慈悲及同情之名所做的事情裡。你的慈悲對問題的解決一點幫助也沒有。這聽起來也許有些嚇人，但是在慈悲裡問題加倍，並且無法獲得解決。
問題來了，所以人可以往內省察，以便能達到不動心及穩定的境界。相反地，你為他們找原因找理由安撫，安撫一個陷在問題裡的人是件最糟糕的事，你不應該去安撫他們，讓每個人去扛自己的十字架，承擔自己的業力。假如你是悲慘的、或是快樂的，那是你的業力。所以你要改變你的業力。這種態度會⋯⋯讓一個人更加地獨立自主。
你給他們慈悲，他們會尋求更多的注意力；接著你會更加地慈悲，給予更多的注意力，然後，你終將無法給予更多的慈悲或注意。這會在你身上產生壓力，「那個可憐人那麼生氣，我必須讓他快樂起來。」要讓一個人快樂起來是個很大的負擔，千萬不要那樣做。這是一個新的政策：不要想讓任何人快樂，你無法做到。(未完待續)
（取自古儒吉所著《Know your Mind》p.p.98-99）You Can’t Make Anybody Happy（二）
Try this-at home, your mother-in-law will complain, your husband will complain, anybody can complain about anything, let the world go topsy-turvy, but hold onto the idea-I am going to keep my energy high. You just take one such step and then see. Problems and challenges come so that you can turn your mind inwards. Instead of turning the mind inwards when problems come, what we do? We chase the problem and get completely drawn in that direction, and then our energy goes down and we collapse.
Many a times, in the name of compassion and sympathy you get drowned. Your compassion does not really help at all in solving the problem. It may sound very shocking but in compassion the problem multiplies, and doesn’t get solved.
Problems come so that a person can turn inwards and look inside, get into a state of dispassion and calmness. Instead you give reasons and try to pacify the person. Pacifying a person in a problem is the worst thing. You should not pacify them. Let everybody carry their own cross. Bear their Karma. If you are miserable or happy it is your Karma. So you change your Karma. This attitude makes a person more independent.
You show compassion and then they seek more attention. You feel more compassion and give them more attention and then neither compassion nor attention is possible. It breeds tension in you, “That poor person is so upset and I have to make him happy.” To make someone happy is a big burden. Don’t try to do that at all. This is a new policy- don’t try to make anybody happy, you can’t. (學琴老師翻譯,美修老師分享)
很多時候，你被淹沒在以慈悲及同情之名所做的事情裡。你的慈悲對
你給他們慈悲，他們會尋求更多的注意力；接著你會更加地慈悲，給
（取自古儒吉所著《Know your Mind》p.p.98-99）You Can’t Make Anybody Happy（二）
Try this-at home, your mother-in-law will complain, your husband will complain, anybody can complain about anything, let the world go topsy-turvy, but hold onto the idea-I am going to keep my energy high. You just take one such step and then see. Problems and challenges come so that you can turn your mind inwards. Instead of turning the mind inwards when problems come, what we do? We chase the problem and get completely drawn in that direction, and then our energy goes down and we collapse.
Many a times, in the name of compassion and sympathy you get drowned. Your compassion does not really help at all in solving the problem. It may sound very shocking but in compassion the problem multiplies, and doesn’t get solved.
Problems come so that a person can turn inwards and look inside, get into a state of dispassion and calmness. Instead you give reasons and try to pacify the person. Pacifying a person in a problem is the worst thing. You should not pacify them. Let everybody carry their own cross. Bear their Karma. If you are miserable or happy it is your Karma. So you change your Karma. This attitude makes a person more independent.
You show compassion and then they seek more attention. You feel more compassion and give them more attention and then neither compassion nor attention is possible. It breeds tension in you, “That poor person is so upset and I have to make him happy.” To make someone happy is a big burden. Don’t try to do that at all. This is a new policy- don’t try to make anybody happy, you can’t.
(學琴老師翻譯,美修老師分享)