FOMO / JOMO
與FOMO 或“對錯過的恐懼”相反， JOMO 是“錯過的喜悅”，描述了因不做某事（某件事、 一次會議 、一次大會）而產生的幸福狀態。斯塔爾鮑默表示，領導者傳統上重視“出勤主義”，即無論對生產力水平有何影響，都要出席或出席會議，但新的工作模式要求他們相信個人可以決定何時參加會議很重要，以及何時參加會議。他們可以跳過它或稍後再補。「我們希望人們擁抱 JOMO，而不是讓員工覺得他們因缺席會議而受到評判。價值來自影響力，而不是知名度。”
JOMO 是非同步協作的自然組成部分。「我在英國有一位同事，她明天早上要聽會議錄音，因為她不會在她的時間凌晨兩點參加現場直播，」斯塔爾鮑默說。「那沒關係！她接受這一點。但 JOMO 是一項新技能——一種新的習得行為——而且我們還不太適應它。
OMO
The opposite of FOMO or the “fear of missing out,” JOMO , the “joy of missing out,” describes a state of happiness as a result of not doing something—an event, a meeting , a conference. Stallbaumer says that leaders have traditionally placed value on “presenteeism,” the state of being present or in attendance no matter the effect on productivity levels, but new work patterns require them to trust individuals to determine when it’s important to attend a meeting, and when they can skip it or catch up later. “We want people to embrace JOMO, and not make employees feel like they’re being judged for missing a meeting. Value comes from impact, not visibility.”
JOMO is a natural part of asynchronous collaboration. “I have a colleague in the UK who’s going to listen to a meeting recording tomorrow morning because she’s not going to join live at two in the morning her time,” Stallbaumer says. “And that’s okay! She embraces that. But JOMO is a new skill—a new learned behavior—and we’re not all comfortable with it yet.” (See the WorkLab guide to work-life balance for more tips on upping your team’s JOMO.)
擁抱JOMO－錯過的喜悅
當我們本能地參加每次會議時，我們就將最重要的工作置於危險之中。
進行自我審核。您在最重要的事情上花費的時間是否少於應有的時間？您可能會發現您需要更有意識地將注意力集中在哪裡。
為 JOMO 榨汁的七種方法
試著拒絕您可以選擇參加的會議，然後再補上錄音和文字記錄。
抵制在午休和休息時間檢查工作的衝動。
嘗試在處理 Word 文件時關閉通知或切換到焦點模式。
監控您是否將時間花在不需要您關注的專案上 ，以分散自己 對更艱鉅任務的注意力。
工作時關閉社交媒體應用程式和標籤，並指定特定的時間段來更新或檢查貼文。
在一天中的固定時間檢查收件箱，而不是查看每封新郵件。
讓您的每位團隊成員也完成這些步驟。
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What Does FOMO Mean?
FOMO refers to the “fear of missing out” — that angsty, anxious restlessness we experience when we have a sense that we’re not included in something interesting, important, and enjoyable. Human beings are social animals, and the fear of being excluded has a biological evolutionary basis (Davis et al., 2023).
In our not-too-distant past, being excluded from social groups could lead to hunger, illness, and death. Our brains are hardwired to seek belonging, social approval, and acceptance. This helps to secure resources, enhances physical safety, and improves reproductive success (Tomasello, 2014). So, the fear of missing out has an important function.
However, in our fast-paced digital age of hyper-connectivity through multiple social media platforms, the hardwired need for social inclusion has a cost (Davis et al., 2023). Endless scrolling on social media in an attempt to feel included may evoke angsty feelings of inadequacy resulting from relentless social comparison and competition, while forgetting that what we see on social media is not an accurate representation of other people’s lives.
At its most intense, FOMO can lead to jealousy and envy of what others have that we ourselves seem to lack. No matter how hard we try to keep up with the notifications of everything that is happening in other people’s lives, we will inevitably miss out because there is simply too much going on all the time (Dalton, 2019).
This sense of missing out can be painful and lead us to feel unfulfilled and inadequate. Scrolling on social media has been linked to an explosion of low mood and anxiety among digital native generations (Firth et al., 2019). Check out this Boonmind video for a deeper reflection on FOMO.
BREAK FREE FROM FOMO: UNLOCKING A LIFE OF FULFILLMENT - BOONMIND
Break Free from FOMO: Unlocking a Life of Fulfillment
What Does JOMO Mean?
JOMO refers to the “joy of missing out” — in short, unplugging from all media, practicing self-care, reconnecting to the present moment, and learning to appreciate the peace of solitude (Dalton, 2019).
JOMO is especially important for digital natives who have never known life without social media, including some Millennials and Gen Z. Unplugging from our devices can help ground us by reconnecting us to the natural world and giving us a break from the relentless social comparison that may be at the root of a lot of the anxiety and dysphoria experienced by these generations (Lusk, 2010).
In short, JOMO gives us a break from processing endless streams of information and notifications that can overwhelm our minds and leave us feeling exhausted (Barry et al., 2023). JOMO provides an opportunity to experience gratitude for all that we have right here and right now (Dalton, 2019).
This video by Boonmind describes how we can make the shift from FOMO to JOMO.
FROM FOMO TO JOMO: EMBRACING THE JOY OF MISSING OUT - BOONMIND
From FOMO to JOMO: Embracing the Joy of Missing Out
Comparing JOMO vs. FOMO
While JOMO embraces offline living and embodies social connections with friends and family in the present moment, FOMO encourages a preoccupation with whatever is beyond the here and now (Brinkmann, 2019).
By definition, if we feel we are missing out, something is lacking. This can lead to a sense of living an unfulfilling life characterized by the endless pursuit of more rather than gratitude and appreciation.
Curiosity drives our FOMO. Curiosity is a positive human motivator that has driven all the great minds who’ve made technological breakthroughs throughout human history. However, a problem arises when our digital devices and their constant stream of notifications that oversaturate us with information hijack our curiosity.
To avoid FOMO and embrace JOMO, we need to discern what is worth our attention and how to curate information accordingly. In the TED talk shown below, documentary filmmaker Barbara Krieger explains how our ongoing attention to information does not necessarily make us more informed. Rather, we need to understand that much of the information conveyed online is repetitive and distracting (Firth et al., 2019).
Krieger (2016) explains how information conveyed by the news cycle becomes “knowledge,” meaning the things we need to know to navigate our way in the world. The consolidation of information into knowledge takes place both online and offline.
She argues that we don’t need to fear missing out if we unplug digitally for hours or days, as much of the information we absorb when constantly plugged in isn’t useful and undermines our focus and attention span.
JOMO NO FOMO: KEEPING CURIOSITY AFLOAT IN A SEA OF RISING INFORMATION
JOMO no FOMO: Keeping curiosity afloat in a sea of rising information | Barbara Krieger | TEDxBasel
Benefits of Embracing JOMO
The benefits of embracing JOMO cannot be overstated. The fast and frantic pace of digital life threatens to drown us in information. For many of us, it feels overwhelming, unnatural, and unproductive. The endless distractions provided by being constantly plugged in can drain our social battery and lead to burnout (Barry et al., 2023).
While most cannot afford to unplug completely, carving out time for living in line with our values is necessary for our subjective wellbeing (Brinkmann, 2019).
Embracing a more cyclical, simple lifestyle that aligns more with our natural biological rhythms is deeply replenishing. A periodic digital detox while embracing the joy of missing out will benefit both our mental and physical health (Dalton, 2019).
Psychologist Svend Brinkmann (2019) wrote a book explaining the benefits of JOMO, and it is reviewed in the books section below. He recommends JOMO as the antidote to the hedonic treadmill that drives our consumer society.
According to the hedonic treadmill theory, the more possessions and experiences we acquire to fuel hedonic sources of happiness, the more of them we require to maintain happiness (Klausen et al., 2022). Such hedonism can result in an unfulfilling life characterized by endless craving.
You can watch Brinkmann discuss the book in an interview below.
THE JOY OF MISSING OUT: WHY WE SHOULD LEARN TO BE CONTENT WITH WHAT WE HAVE
The joy of missing out: Why we should learn to be content with what we have
Strategies for Finding Joy in Missing Out
Productivity expert and author Tanya Dalton (2019) wrote a book about JOMO that is reviewed in the books section below. The following strategies to find joy in missing out have been drawn from her writings and podcasts:
Make a list of activities you really enjoy doing.
Post it in an accessible place so that at a moment’s notice, you’ve got a reminder of activities that bring you joy and include them in your day.
Make plans for your time off.
Too often we just go with the flow and wonder what we did all day once we are in bed. The key is balance: not over-structuring our lives but carving out time for meaningful connection, creative pursuits, or whatever brings you joy offline.
Do a regular digital detox.
A lot of FOMO is generated by scrolling through social media and the resulting social comparisons that inevitably happen. Make sure you unplug for a set time each day or week to ground yourself in the present moment.
Invest in offline connections with others.
This can include family, partners, friends, and neighbors. It doesn’t have to be a huge amount of time, but a shared activity is a great way to build meaningful relationships rather than investing time in connecting with relative strangers online.
Carve out time for self-care.
This is often the most difficult thing to do for those with demanding fast-paced lives, but it’s essential to stay well and to take care of others. It might be a solo nature walk, a warm bath, meditation, or soothing music — whatever makes you feel more comfortable in your own skin.
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Using JOMO to Enhance Productivity
There is no such thing as time management.
This may sound totally counterintuitive, but as productivity expert and author Tanya Dalton (2021) found, letting go of measuring our output against the clock and instead focusing on the quality of our work enhances productivity while also freeing up time.
How? Simply put, we are human beings — complex organisms that exist in a dynamic relationship with our environment and its natural cycles and rhythms.
Dalton contends that clock-watching time management, however, is a legacy of the industrial revolution and Henry Ford’s advocacy of Fordism, the assembly line production method (Hudson, 2009). There was a period in history when many were required to work in production lines like cogs in a machine. Dalton argues that this is an outmoded approach to productivity.
The transition to a knowledge-based information economy coupled with AI-controlled automation means this pattern of work is no longer required for many of us. Instead, we can afford to reconnect to our natural rhythms and embrace nourishing activities on our JOMO list during our organic cycles of more or less focus throughout the day, week, and year (Dalton, 2019).
Dalton argues that completing tasks when we are at our most focused — whatever the times of day, week, month, or season that happens — makes us much more productive without being prisoners of the clock. For a fascinating and concise presentation of how less time dedicated to work enhances productivity, see her Oxford Talk given in New York.
TIME MANAGEMENT IS KILLING YOUR PRODUCTIVITY - TANYA DALTON
Time management is killing your productivity | Tanya Dalton | Oxford Talks in New York City
3 Must Read Books
I have chosen the following books to help you embrace JOMO and ditch FOMO with attention to the science of subjective wellbeing and productivity.
1. The Joy of Missing Out: Live More by Doing Less – Tanya Dalton
The Joy of Missing Out
Named a Top 10 Business Book of the Year by Fortune magazine, I referred to this book and the author in the sections above. The image on the cover depicts a woman struggling with impossible demands leading to stress and overwhelm.
Many of us start the day already feeling behind. The race against the clock while tearing through our to-do lists can make us anxious and irritable. This is a far cry from a good life.
CEO and productivity coach Tanya Dalton recommends a liberating shift in perspective — embracing the joy of missing out. This book is packed full of printable resources to help you overcome overwhelm and live your best life.
The author coaches you on how to identify your values, clarify priorities, streamline your workflow, and discover your purpose. Dalton explains how when you refuse the pressure to do more, something amazing happens: You discover that you can live a productive and abundant life where less is more and where fewer activities lead to greater fulfillment.
Find the book on Amazon.
2. The Joy of Missing Out: The Art of Self-Restraint in an Age of Excess – Svend Brinkmann
The Joy of Missing Out
I’ve referred to the author Danish philosopher and psychologist Svend Brinkmann in the sections above. In this book, Brinkmann focuses on JOMO as an antidote to the consumerist drive to gain better and more experiences or products.
The problem with pursuing endless gratification is explained by the hedonic treadmill and hedonic adaptation theory.
Psychologists have found that despite spikes in short-term pleasure provided by novel and interesting events, experiences, and bigger and better consumer products, human beings quickly return to a baseline level of happiness. Brinkmann argues that this means that the never-ending pursuit of consumer-based gratification can quickly develop into a flatlining treadmill leading nowhere.
A far more effective way to cultivate happiness is to practice moderation, self-restraint, appreciation, and gratitude, by embracing the joy of missing out. Brinkmann educates readers by presenting five arguments based on political, existential, ethical, psychological, and aesthetic rationales for the joy of missing out. Readers learn how to enrich their lives and those of others while protecting the planet from the ravages of excessive consumption.
Find the book on Amazon.
3. The Joy of Missing Out: Finding Balance in a Wired World – Christina Crook
The Joy of Missing Out
The author wrote this book after a month-long digital detox from the stress-inducing clicking, beeping, vibrating notifications that threatened to overwhelm her.
She shares her experience of unplugging to help readers rethink their relationship to technology and the avalanche of data that bombards us daily from our laptops, tablets, and smartphones.
Christina Crook considers the impact of a technology-focused world on our children, families, friendships, communities, wellbeing, and work life. The book is not anti-technology, but explains the merits of intentional living that includes a disciplined use of technology rather than being used by it.
During her month-long internet fast, Crook describes how she rediscovered the richness of offline existence and a quietness of mind beyond the now normalized state of what Sherry Turkle (2016) called “distracted connectedness.”
This book is poetically written with rich references to a range of literature past and present, making it a pleasure to read. It is highly recommended for all those seeking balance, peace, and genuine connection while maintaining a stake in our fast-paced digital age.
Find the book on Amazon.
Resources From PositivePsychology.com
Here at PositivePsychology.com, we have a range of resources to support your exploration of JOMO. Topics cover happiness and subjective wellbeing, work–life balance, and helping enhance your connection to the present moment. Related articles with links to free tools and resources include:
Hedonic vs. Eudaimonic Wellbeing: How to Reach Happiness
The Wabi Sabi Lifestyle: How to Accept Imperfection in Life
Work–Life Balance in Psychology: 12 Examples and Theories
If you’re looking for more science-based ways to help others develop strategies to boost their wellbeing, check out this collection of 17 validated happiness and wellbeing exercises. Use them to help others pursue authentic happiness and work toward a life filled with purpose and meaning.
A Take-Home Message
The joy of missing out is something worth considering when we notice we’re spending too much time trying to keep up with the constant influx of information.
Our natural curiosity about the world is a key motivator for action, but in our fast-paced digital culture, it can also be draining.
Keep in mind that social comparison is not necessarily a bad thing. Seeing others do better can also inspire us to improve ourselves.
The key to managing our fear of missing out is embracing moderation. Take time to switch off and connect with those around you. Take the time to care for yourself. Embrace balance and enjoy the present moment.
We hope you enjoyed reading this article. Don’t forget to download our three Happiness Exercises for free.
Frequently Asked Questions
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REFERENCES
Barry, C., Smith, E., Murphy, M., Halter, B., & Briggs, J. (2023). JOMO: Joy of missing out and its association with social media use, self-perception, and mental health. Telematics and Informatics Reports, 10.
Brinkmann, S. (2019). The joy of missing out: The art of self-restraint in an age of excess. Polity.
Dalton, T. (2019). The joy of missing out: Live more by doing less. Thomas Nelson.
Dalton, T. (2021). On purpose: The busy woman’s guide to an extraordinary life of meaning and success. Thomas Nelson.
Davis, A. C., Albert, G., & Arnocky, S. (2023). The links between fear of missing out, status-seeking, intrasexual competition, sociosexuality, and social support. Current Research in Behavioral Sciences, 4.
Firth, J., Torous, J., Stubbs, B., Firth, J. A., Steiner, G. Z., Smith, L., Alvarez-Jimenez, M., Gleeson, J., Vancampfort, D., Armitage, C. J., & Sarris, J. (2019). The online brain: How the internet may be changing our cognition. World Psychiatry, 18(2), 119–129.
Hudson, R. (2009). Fordism in R. Kitchen & N. Thrift (Eds.), The international encyclopedia of human geography (pp. 226–231). Elsevier.
Klausen, S. H., Emiliussen, J., Christiansen, R., Hasandedic-Dapo, L., & Engelsen, S. (2022). The many faces of hedonic adaptation. Philosophical Psychology, 35(2), 253–278.
Krieger, B. (2016). JOMO no FOMO: Keeping curiosity afloat in a sea of rising information. TEDxBasel.
Lusk, B. (2010). Digital natives and social media behavior: An overview. The Prevention Researcher, 17(S1).
Tomasello, M. (2014). The ultra-social animal. European Journal of Social Psychology, 44, 187–194.
Turkle, S. (2016). Reclaiming conversation: The power of talk in a digital age. Penguin.
sharp
adjective
UK /ʃɑːp/ US /ʃɑːrp/
sharp adjective (ABLE TO CUT)
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B1
having a thin edge or point that can cut something or make a hole in something
鋒利的；尖的
a knife with a sharp edge/blade.
刀刃鋒利的刀子
sharp teeth/claws/fingernails
鋒利的牙齒／尖銳的爪子／尖尖的指甲
The point of this pencil isn't sharp enough.
這支鉛筆的頭還不夠尖。
C2
producing or describing a quick, strong pain that makes you feel like you have been cut
（疼痛）迅速而劇烈的
She nudged me with a sharp elbow, to tell me to be quiet.
她狠狠地用手肘捅了我一下，要我安靜點。
I have this sharp pain in my chest, doctor.
醫生，我的胸口感到刺痛。
used to describe a part of someone's face that is very pointed
（臉上某部位）尖尖的
a thin face with a sharp nose
長著尖尖鼻子的一張瘦臉
If someone is sharp or makes a sharp statement, they speak or act in a severe and angry way that can hurt other people.
（言行）尖刻的，尖銳的，嚴厲的
He was a little sharp with me when I asked him to help.
我請他幫忙時，他對我的態度相當刻薄。
The proposals came in for some sharp criticism.
提議遭到了尖刻的批評。
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The doctor used a sharp instrument to dig a piece of glass out of my finger.
Careful with that open tin - it's got a very sharp edge.
File down the sharp edges.
Shopkeepers are not supposed to sell knives and other sharp implements to children.
I felt a sharp pain and looked down to see blood pouring from my leg.
sharp adjective (SUDDEN)
B2
happening suddenly, quickly, and strongly
突然的;急劇的;猛烈的
a sharp drop in temperature
氣溫的遽降
a sharp decline in the standard of living
生活水準的驟降
a sharp rise/increase in the number of cases of the disease
該病發病人數的急遽上升
a sharp bend in the road
公路的急轉彎
to suffer a sharp blow to the head
頭部遭到一記猛擊
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sharp adjective (TASTE)
sour in taste
很酸的
Lemons have a sharp taste.
檸檬的味道很酸。
This cheese is rather sharp.
這種起司很酸。
同義詞
acid (CHEMICAL)
sharp adjective (CLEAR)
C1
clear; easy to see or understand
清晰的;清楚的
This TV gives a very sharp picture.
這台電視機影像非常清晰。
The mountains stood in sharp contrast to the blue sky.
群山與藍天形成了鮮明的對比。
There is a sharp distinction between crimes which involve injury to people and those that don't.
造成人身傷害的犯罪和未造成人身傷害的犯罪兩者之間有明顯的界線。
It was a sharp reminder of how dangerous the world can be.
這清楚地提醒人們這個世界有多麽危險。
sharp adjective (CLEVER)
B2 mainly approving
intelligent or quick to notice things
聰明的;精明的;敏銳的
Birdwatchers need to have sharp ears and eyes.
賞鳥者必須有敏銳的耳朵和眼睛。
She has a sharp eye for a bargain.
她非常擅長發現便宜貨。
Our new director is very sharp.
我們的新主任非常精明。
She manages to combine a sharp mind/intellect with a sympathetic manner.
她既有機敏的頭腦，又能做到善解人意。
He was a man of sharp wit/sharp-witted man who always spoke his mind.
他是一個思維敏捷、說話從不拐彎抹角的人。
The play was full of sharp one-liners.
這齣戲充滿了機智風趣的俏皮話。
US He may be old but he's still as sharp as a tack.
他也許是上了年紀，但仍然思維敏捷。
sharp adjective (FASHIONABLE)
informal
fashionable
時髦的，時尚的
Tony is a very sharp dresser.
湯尼衣著很時尚。
a sharp-suited business executive
衣著時髦的企業主管
習語
have a sharp tongue
sharp
adverb
UK /ʃɑːp/ US /ʃɑːrp/
sharp adverb (SUDDENLY)
C1
suddenly or immediately
突然地，立刻地
After the church, turn sharp left/right.
過了教堂，向左／右急轉彎。
sharp adverb (EXACTLY)
C1
exactly at the stated time
正好，準時地
The performance will start at 7.30 sharp.
演出將於7：30準時開始。
sharp
adjective, adverb
UK /ʃɑːp/ US /ʃɑːrp/
higher than the correct or stated musical note
（音）偏高（的），升半音（的）
The E string on my guitar is a bit sharp.
我吉他上 E 弦的音有些偏高。
This concerto is in the key of C sharp (= the set of musical notes a semitone higher than the one based on the note C).
這支協奏曲是升C調的。
to sing sharp
唱得偏高
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flat adjective adverb (MUSIC)natural adjective (MUSIC)
sharp
noun [ C ]
UK /ʃɑːp/ US /ʃɑːrp/
(a symbol for) a note that is a semitone higher than the stated note
升半音;升半音號
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