2007-08-08 01:54:34麻薯 PuPpy

在你心中有這樣的一個人嗎?

Yesterday I was discussing the following with one of my really good friend:

YY said...
一直再想一件事
你認為男女之間有可能有純粹的友誼嗎??
因為總覺得那是很難的一件事的說
對方在過去的無限生命中 曾經是你的親朋好友, 冤親債主等等
那你對對方的感情不也就會慘雜著不同的一面嗎??
我對 世間苦 的感受不大
常常會察覺到自己對朋友的感覺很複雜, 雖然只是很微小感覺
我是那種只要 對我好,關心我, 我就很容易喜歡上對方的人 XD

P answered:
I feel that there are pure friendships... ^___^
But it is hard to find someone who believe in it and can do so too...

It is hard to control our feelings sometimes...
But if we do not try to control it sometimes....
How are we different than animals??

Yes... We like someone because of the karma we made in the past...
But then, does it mean we made a un-pure karma?
We need to make the right karma so in the future we do not have much obstacles ^^

We are all confused because of we do not know the truth.
When we all understand the truth behind everything...
Then we would not be unhappy anymore and will find true HAPPINESS!!

When we feel like we like someone...
It is always a good idea to think about WHY we like this person?
What is it that make me like this person?
You do not need to share with anyone about this...
But just ask yourself...
AND what if this quality that you like changed???
Would you still like this person as much??
What if others have that quality too??
Would you change your mind?
If we ask ourself these questions often...
Then I think we would not be confused all the times ^^
(It is easier to say then done... lol I need to work on it too hehe )

YY continued...
感覺你比較像大愛 而不是小愛的人
你給我的感覺就是這樣
跟週遭的很多人都很不一樣
說白了, 現代很多人所謂的愛情不過就是要對方屬於自己而已 = ~ =

P respond:
I try to do my best to do so...
I believe there are a lot of ppl like that out there too...
But people like that get confused and blinded sometimes too hehe
And yes, it is sad to say that a lot of relationships is just ”ownership”
Which is pretty sad....
This would usually lead to jealousy and hatred and 背叛
But what we can do is to do our best not to be like that... ^^
Because if we are like that... then we will end up being not satisfied... and unhappy...
I believe that we need to find someone not only we like... but is able to communicate well... to share and to grow together....
to have soulful conversations ^____^

Hope everyone can find that person!!!

Special Thanks to YY for the 版權 lol
在你心中有這樣的一個人嗎?


你們可能相愛過,你們也可能喜歡著彼此,
但是,為了什麼原因你們沒能在一起?
也許他為了朋友之間的義氣,不能追你。
也許為了顧及家人的意見 ,你們沒有在一起。


也許為了出國深造,他沒有要你等他。
也許你們相遇太早,還不懂得珍惜對方。
也許你們相遇太晚,你們身邊已經有了另一個人。
也許你回頭太遲,對方已不再等待。
也許你們彼此在捉摸對方的心,而遲遲無法跨出界線。


不過即使你們沒在一起,你們還是保持了朋友的關係。
但是你們心底清楚,對這個人,你比朋友還多了一份關心。
即使不能跟他名正言順的牽著手逛街,你們還是可以做無所不談的朋友。
他有喜歡的人,你口頭上會幫他追,心裡卻不是很清楚,你是不是真的希望他追到。


他遇到困難時,你會盡你所能的幫他,不會計較誰又欠了誰。
男女朋友吃醋了,你會安撫他們說你和他只是朋友,但你心中會有那麼一絲的不確定。
每個人這輩子,心中都有過這麼一個特別的朋友,很矛盾的行為。
一開始你不甘心只做朋友的,但久了,突然發現這樣最好。


你寧願這樣關心他, 總好過你們在一起而有天會分手。
你寧願做他的朋友,彼此不會吃醋,才可以真的無所不談。
特別是這樣,你還是知道,他永遠會關心你的。
做不成男女朋友,當他那個特別的朋友,有什麼不好呢?
你心中的這個特別的朋友...? 是誰呢?


很多的感情,都因為一廂情願,最後連朋友都當不成了,常常覺得惋惜,
可惜一些本來很好的友情,最後卻因為對方的一句喜歡你,
如果你沒有反應,這一段友情似乎也難以維持下去,
這也難怪有些人會因此不肯踏出這一步。


因為這就像是一場賭注,表白了之後不是成了男女朋友,要不就連朋友都當不成了。
有些事不是你能預料的,或許對方不在意,你們還可以是朋友,
但卻已經不如從前的好。也是可惜,也是遺憾!
但還有沒有可能是另一種情況,你可能永遠都不甘心只是朋友. . . . .

 

希望你能感受到段文章的精蘊吧!


Special thanks to Shercle ^___^
http://www.dzygn.com/poems/loveofurheart.html



So... Do YOU have a friend like this???
P 2007-08-09 16:37:44

Yea....
Respect....
that is something the society lack these days... hehe before you post that comment... I was thinking of that too lol hehe
^___^
great minds think alike ^^
hehe

cheng 2007-08-09 04:49:01

it`s a well-written artcile. quite insightful, yet to add on that is that in order to neglect the ownership or possession, respect may be one of the good solution to that. because after all, every one person is an individual entity! Then, what is the &quotneed&quot of a love relationship?!