T:
You mean after thinking this over the past few weeks, you still think you are the kind of person for G and him for you?

I guess I don’t know him well enough to say anything, but if you think he’s worth for you trying it again, then go for it.

What are your thoughts on the situation? You think u’ll have to change, he has to change, or what should happen for it to work out?

A:
After talking to someone objectives other than friends, thinking this over, and seeing how it’s reflecting on me, i started to realized how unappreciated and selfish and unsatisfied of a gf I might have been in this relationship. I know my friends will always take my side and tell me I deserve someone better. But how much better is better? When was last time a bf was nearly as nice and sweet to me as G? I don’t remember. And i also don’t remember ever loving someone so much as a grown-up. But after I became comfortable with his money and this relationship, I started to expect more and more and not happy with what we’ve had anymore. He’s been a generous bf to me, but I complained to you about him when I felt he should hv been more generous. For me who came from a family where I ask money when I need, and he works so hard his entire life to get to where he is at today, I think I just became a selfish gf who just wanna take advantage of his success and his generosity and refused to understand what makes him uncomfortable with when it comes to money. To think he was raised by single mother who’s financially and emotionally strong, I think that’s how he liked about me at first. Families really contribute big deal of influence in everyone’s perspectives and attitudes as how we see ourselves and things. I couldn’t see or understand this at all when I was with G, and it takes a break-up for me to understand. If we don’t get to be together again, I think at least I’ve learned more about myself and at least become a better person. Next time when someone great comes along, I’ll be able to know better how to make things right, as I’ve learned from my mistakes.


T:
I don’t think anybody is taking anybody’s side here. I never said you deserve someone better or vice versa, I still think G is a great guy.

Only problem is like u said, you guys are not compatible coz you came from a different family background. Even if you were to get back together, it’s going to take a lot from both sides to come to terms, especially from you ie not being so demanding, unappreciative (u aren’t this way with friends, so I can’t tell how you are really with G) etc etc. It’s already in your nature to be like that, not saying u are really a selfish girl, but u’ve grown up in this sort of environment, your character is already shaped like this. Perhaps you can change yourself a little, but I still think it’s very hard to change one’s character. Even if you try your best to be considerate and willing to do anything to get back with him, after a while, a few years down the road perhaps, your true self resurfaces again, and same for gary. You presented him with an image of being emotionally / financially independent, and he later on realized you aren’t what he thought you to be, so he left.

Anyway, point is, we are all adults, our characters have already been shaped. But I still encourage you to get him back, he’s definitely worth it. Like you said, if he’s still unwilling, perhaps you will learn from this relationship and try to be a more considerate person for the next great guy that comes along.

Oh well…hope I didn’t discourage you, it wasn’t my intention, just speaking from my own experiences. I’ve been said to be demanding and selfish too, like the whole world should revolve around me, but that’s me..what can I do except try to meet a guy that’s willing to revolve around me.

A:
Point taken!
Owell…even if 0.01% chance there for me, I’ve already made my best bet.

Thanks for always being there for me. I wouldn’t have been able to get thru this w/o your support.