2003-02-13 16:38:26石子
Being Twenty Something - 後續篇(一)
(Article taken from SM3Science97, by Clark)
Being Twenty-Something: Crisis or Transition? They called it a crisis, but I prefer to call this golden period a transition from kid to adult. It is the time when you lose all the protection and comfort for being a childish youth and take steps into the real world. You feel uncomfortable and depression, frustration, anger, anxiety, fears grow like wild fire. But all those are just part of adaptation to the new phase of life. You always thought you know all about the real world, but the real world is not even close to the slightest degree to what you’ve imaging. You begin to be anxious, scared, panic or even freak-out. Then you try to hold on to something only to realize that there’s not real anything you can hold on to firmly. So you try another desperate measure, cling to the past to get some warmth and protection, but finally you realize the past is just some stone-cold images and it is fading in the midst of time. To make the situation worst, you realize you don’t know a single thing about yourself. Then, you take your steps very timidly and cautiously so that you can pick up something along the way. You are terrified by the idea of “let’s get dangerous”, you want to play it safe because you really afraid of falling down. But on second thought, you know you still can afford to fall down because your are twenty-something and then you understand you can’t rely on your emotions to do all the thinking, need to use your head more often. Life is no longer simple. It has become so complicated that you feel you are all tied-up and hardly can breathe freely anymore. There are thousands things in your fragile little mind now, money, job, loans and future. All these adult stuffs burn you out and really have no idea how to handle them. You scream and look around, but only find that people around are in the same shit as you. To save all the troubles, you decide to follow the crowd. “Hey, everyone else is doing the same. Why can’t I?” So you wake up every morning and work diligently. Life is simple until you jump out from the bed perspiring all over from a nightmare. Then you know something is wrong. You start go against the crowd only to find that it is way tougher than you expected. Finally, you don’t know what to do anymore. The feeling of loneliness haunts days and nights because you finally realize that there will not always be someone there to give you some warmth when you fall down. So you go out to find someone to love or/and be loved. You want a shoulder that you can rest on when you are tired; ears to listen to you; a mouth that spells words that pacify your fear; eyes, arms and heartbeats that give you warmth. You break someone’s heart and someone breaks your heart, that’s the cycle. But then you know your heart is stronger after you heal from the wounds that you thought they never healed. So you finally understand what love really is and you really want. Acting desperado and playing cheap is just your hormone talking. That Mr. or Miss Right is always around the corner. You cling to your puny job of ours, doing routine tasks day in, day out. You start to wonder if you are going to be stuck with this kind of job for the rest of your life. You change jobs to look for new challenges and new security. You still can afford to do that because you are twenty-something. But then you realize changing job doesn’t help much as you are still stuck to the same old routine tasks. The best part of being twenty-something is that you still have to luxury to bang on your head and find the way out of this vicious cycle; some called this cycle “life’s biggest trap”. Twenty-Something is when you start talking to your life and make solid decision. You beginning to feel someone or something is pushing you around. Look no further. LIFE is pushing you around; it pushes you around just to tell you something important. “DEAD END! USE YOUR HEAD!” Life always talks to us, but too often we turn deaf ears on him/her. The worst part of twenty-something, we can no longer ignore life’s advice and go willfully on our own. It is a time of change and uncertainty, but it’s also a time to learn and grow. It is time to really live our lives and live to the fullest. Tear, fear and pain are inevitable, but what go along with are laughter, joy and confidence; the most important point is to make the best out of this transition and make the best out of life. Happy Growing Up!
Being Twenty-Something: Crisis or Transition? They called it a crisis, but I prefer to call this golden period a transition from kid to adult. It is the time when you lose all the protection and comfort for being a childish youth and take steps into the real world. You feel uncomfortable and depression, frustration, anger, anxiety, fears grow like wild fire. But all those are just part of adaptation to the new phase of life. You always thought you know all about the real world, but the real world is not even close to the slightest degree to what you’ve imaging. You begin to be anxious, scared, panic or even freak-out. Then you try to hold on to something only to realize that there’s not real anything you can hold on to firmly. So you try another desperate measure, cling to the past to get some warmth and protection, but finally you realize the past is just some stone-cold images and it is fading in the midst of time. To make the situation worst, you realize you don’t know a single thing about yourself. Then, you take your steps very timidly and cautiously so that you can pick up something along the way. You are terrified by the idea of “let’s get dangerous”, you want to play it safe because you really afraid of falling down. But on second thought, you know you still can afford to fall down because your are twenty-something and then you understand you can’t rely on your emotions to do all the thinking, need to use your head more often. Life is no longer simple. It has become so complicated that you feel you are all tied-up and hardly can breathe freely anymore. There are thousands things in your fragile little mind now, money, job, loans and future. All these adult stuffs burn you out and really have no idea how to handle them. You scream and look around, but only find that people around are in the same shit as you. To save all the troubles, you decide to follow the crowd. “Hey, everyone else is doing the same. Why can’t I?” So you wake up every morning and work diligently. Life is simple until you jump out from the bed perspiring all over from a nightmare. Then you know something is wrong. You start go against the crowd only to find that it is way tougher than you expected. Finally, you don’t know what to do anymore. The feeling of loneliness haunts days and nights because you finally realize that there will not always be someone there to give you some warmth when you fall down. So you go out to find someone to love or/and be loved. You want a shoulder that you can rest on when you are tired; ears to listen to you; a mouth that spells words that pacify your fear; eyes, arms and heartbeats that give you warmth. You break someone’s heart and someone breaks your heart, that’s the cycle. But then you know your heart is stronger after you heal from the wounds that you thought they never healed. So you finally understand what love really is and you really want. Acting desperado and playing cheap is just your hormone talking. That Mr. or Miss Right is always around the corner. You cling to your puny job of ours, doing routine tasks day in, day out. You start to wonder if you are going to be stuck with this kind of job for the rest of your life. You change jobs to look for new challenges and new security. You still can afford to do that because you are twenty-something. But then you realize changing job doesn’t help much as you are still stuck to the same old routine tasks. The best part of being twenty-something is that you still have to luxury to bang on your head and find the way out of this vicious cycle; some called this cycle “life’s biggest trap”. Twenty-Something is when you start talking to your life and make solid decision. You beginning to feel someone or something is pushing you around. Look no further. LIFE is pushing you around; it pushes you around just to tell you something important. “DEAD END! USE YOUR HEAD!” Life always talks to us, but too often we turn deaf ears on him/her. The worst part of twenty-something, we can no longer ignore life’s advice and go willfully on our own. It is a time of change and uncertainty, but it’s also a time to learn and grow. It is time to really live our lives and live to the fullest. Tear, fear and pain are inevitable, but what go along with are laughter, joy and confidence; the most important point is to make the best out of this transition and make the best out of life. Happy Growing Up!