Last night a phone call from my German friend lives in DC and she informed me that her husband is dead.  It is so shocking since they are planning to go back German next week.  She told me that she found him dead on the carpet and it might have been heart-attack.  These few days my husband has felt so tired due to his heart condition and he had some dying conversation with us.  It’s a wake up call that my German friend has reminded me to take care of my husband.  She assumed that it might be the stein that caused her husband death so she also ordered a autopsy report.  It also can be caused by the stress her husband had lately since he was so angry.  While her husband still alive, we tried to set up time for us to me that seem impossible because her husband controlled her every move and even called her consistently every five minutes.  Now, she told me that she rather goes back that prison.  She has been felt so devastated and so alone and how the death of her husband that she has faced an ice cold American.  She told me none of her husband’s doctor friends would come to say good bye to her husband.  Her husband was also a retired doctor.  In addition, she told me that German memorial service requested her to donate enable to give her husband’s service.  Furthermore, the funeral home only allows her to be with her husband’s coffin for only ten minutes and addition time cost $100.00 by a hour.  Next Thursday she will fly back to German with her husband’s ash maybe for good she said that she has been disappointed at human being.  Just I ask her to let me see her before she leaves and I want to offer her my hug.  It has been such emotional night.  Living in America is not as a dream comes true as you think.  It takes hard work and your faith living in this cold world that some part of places that people only judge you for what you own.  Sickness and death would be the worst outcome to bring down a family here.  You just need to prepare because you never know what would happen.  Some people here know the rules of this country so they have been prepared the worst could be, the will to the family and friends.  My sincerely condolence going out to her and wish she find a new life when she is ready.  She is going to Latin America that was the trip that her husband paid for but the airline would not refund even death so she is taking the trip there by herself.  How brave she must be during the death and betray of German friend recently visited her.  This world is getting so cold now so please treasure your husband no matter there was argument or disagreement or how deep the scar was.  You only have each other so treasure for it and good luck to all of you!